When did you decide the way you live is "normal"?
One day, probably a long long time ago your subconscious mind (95% of you and a million times more powerful than your conscious mind) decided that X was "normal". Perhaps it was because in your family and social circles it was widespread. Perhaps because you had subscribed to the idea without ever really thinking about it that X was the done thing and that was that. Everybody thought the same, but actually, was it "everybody"?
Here are a few examples of what that might resemble:
Now, I'm not saying there is anything wrong with any of those being your "normals" if they are serving you well and you don't feel like you want anything to change in your life.
What I am saying, screaming from the rooftops and with a high power megaphone for all to hear far and wide, is that "if" you're not waking up every day with a general buzz for life or you are feeling confused, lost or stuck in certain habits of behavior that you want to change then you need to check in with your "normals".
Just as we would in a romantic relationship that is experiencing challenges. You sit down, consider what the behavior is that's causing problems, look at the impact it's having on all concerned, talk it over, release and understand the feelings and emotions involved and make some fine-tuned changes to go into the future with more direction, peace of mind and enthusiasm. If there's no enthusiasm then what's the point, right?
If you're trying to achieve specific things in life, sure, look at the what, the how, the why and all such obvious elements and then train yourself to go further, look at people who have already achieved such things.
What are their "normals"?
How do they compare with your "normals"?
Our relationship with our own "normals" is found in our blind spots, holding hands with our best way forward.
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One day, probably a long long time ago your subconscious mind (95% of you and a million times more powerful than your conscious mind) decided that X was "normal". Perhaps it was because in your family and social circles it was widespread. Perhaps because you had subscribed to the idea without ever really thinking about it that X was the done thing and that was that. Everybody thought the same, but actually, was it "everybody"?
Here are a few examples of what that might resemble:
- Work is work, you're not supposed to enjoy it
- If I don't put others before myself I am selfish
- Having a university degree makes a person more successful in life
- Socializing with friends goes hand in hand with drinking alcohol
- Buying things using credit cards is what everyone does
- I need to eat 3 meals a day
- If someone says something I disagree with getting angry is understandable
- To be happy in life a person needs X, Y & Z
Now, I'm not saying there is anything wrong with any of those being your "normals" if they are serving you well and you don't feel like you want anything to change in your life.
What I am saying, screaming from the rooftops and with a high power megaphone for all to hear far and wide, is that "if" you're not waking up every day with a general buzz for life or you are feeling confused, lost or stuck in certain habits of behavior that you want to change then you need to check in with your "normals".
Just as we would in a romantic relationship that is experiencing challenges. You sit down, consider what the behavior is that's causing problems, look at the impact it's having on all concerned, talk it over, release and understand the feelings and emotions involved and make some fine-tuned changes to go into the future with more direction, peace of mind and enthusiasm. If there's no enthusiasm then what's the point, right?
If you're trying to achieve specific things in life, sure, look at the what, the how, the why and all such obvious elements and then train yourself to go further, look at people who have already achieved such things.
What are their "normals"?
How do they compare with your "normals"?
Our relationship with our own "normals" is found in our blind spots, holding hands with our best way forward.
If you found this blog interesting don't forget to subscribe to our free newsletter!
Benjamin Wood
ICF Certified Leadership Lifestyle Coach
Master NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) Practitioner
Master NLP Coach
Master Time Line Therapy Practitioner
CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) Practitioner
Corporate Facilitator and Motivational Speaker
ICF Certified Leadership Lifestyle Coach
Master NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) Practitioner
Master NLP Coach
Master Time Line Therapy Practitioner
CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) Practitioner
Corporate Facilitator and Motivational Speaker
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